So he's popped the question! You've flashed your bright, sparkly ring to anyone and everyone. Your mother has told all those far-distant relations you've never met that your engaged! Now what? There's a long road ahead full of preparations, where do you begin!!
Although this is the big day you've been dreaming about since you were a little girl, it's important that you discuss with your man what you BOTH want for a wedding. Make a list of what is important to you both. Make a list of the absolute essentials (venue, dress, flowers) and the optionals (chocolate fountain, horse & carriage, violinist). This will help both of you get a clear picture of your wedding day. Remember, compromise if your lists differ.
Next thing you need to establish a.s.a.p. is your budget. This will influence all of your wedding choices, so the sooner you know what you have to spend, the sooner you can start making plans for the day. It is also important to know if both sets of parents will be contributing to the budget, or will you and your fiance be paying for the wedding on your own. We will be discussing later who traditionally pays for what.
Have you set a date? Do you want a short or long engagement? A long engagement will give you time to save if money is tight. Also bear in mind if there are any important family occasions coming up (your sister having a baby?). Plan your wedding date around the time of year. Bear in mind that our South African summers can be very hot - if you want an outdoors wedding, the middle of summer will not be the best time to have it!
Make sure that you and your hubby-to-be keep the communication channels open and that you share your ideas with each other. But remember, although this is your day, don't kill everyone you know with wedding talk every time you see them. My suggestion is: keep an element of surprise. E.g: your colour theme, or your venue choice.
Most importantly, remember to have fun while planning! It is a celebration of the beginning of your lives together.
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